Wedding Jewellery

Sighzz... Who get 925 silver for wedding? Esp if ur PIL r well-to-do type? Does that mean they dun welcome this DIL to be married into the family hence gave such a SDJ?? Anyway I have told my husband upfront that if they r going to give me silver, I won't accept.. I rather dun wan the gift than to wear silver back to show to my relatives..

Hi jazol, I agree that SDJ is not to show off.. but SDJ is a sign of how "loved" a DIL is by ILs.. I think, if cannot afford yellow gold, then buy jade or white gold. I think buying silver is a bit "too much". Maybe don't buy 4 items, but instead buy 1 white gold item if yellow gold is really so expensive... In my case, my fiance actually gives $1k every month to his parents. He has been doing this for the past 3 years since he started work.. His parents say they will be saving the $ for our GDL and our SDJ, so I don't feel the pinch for my ILs, nor my fiance... cos ILs have also said the rest of the $ (after spending on GDL and SDJ), will form part of the retirement $ for them. I feel my fiance is very generous with his allowance to his parents (given that he has 2 other siblings who are already working). So if ILs offer generous budget for my SDJ, I might as well accept it graciously. If not, it will form my ILs retirement $. And my fiance will continue to give his parents $1k every month until they die...so no fear they have no retirement $ considering they both have jobs, a car and a 5-room HDB flat.

Cactus, Wow yr Fiancee is indeed generous to his parents which I think is great.Yes I agree SDJ is a yi shi and not necessarily for show.. Alicia, I dont think yr PIL welcome and love u any less based on their cursory attention to the type of SDJ. So please dont feel bad about yrself or towards them. In fact if you read the previous threads on this, there are many PIL who are pretty "modern" and wish to do away with such formalities. Initially my MIL too didnt want to bother with this but my mom insisted as she is a stickler of tradition . :p You have 5 months to take yr time and get the SDJ- Maybe white gold or lesser stuffs. I am only going to get mine very close to the wedding as my Fiancee will be back by then from overseas. Hope this help, dont fret and cheer up

Yup... My fiance is filial to his parents and I'm actually trying to learn to from him to be filial to my own parents. Actually, just to share, I won't be taking all 4 items for the SDJ cos I'm not teochew and neither is my fiance. Only my FMIL is teochew - that's why she offered to buy SDJ for me. I'll probably just buy a bracelet and a necklace and I'll be using only 80% of the budget my FMIL gives me. Sometimes, it's the gal's family which has expectations. So although the guy's side may be modern, a cheap SDJ or jewelry may be seen as loss of face for the gal's family, esp if the gal is teochew or if the gal's mom is teochew, or if the gal is the only daughter in her family, or even the only child.

Hi, actually alot of things depend on the bride (the SDJ - usually should consist a pair of earrings, a necklace, a bracelet or a bangle and a ring my sis received the above - 4 pcs of gold my sis-in-law received 4 pcs of white gold with diamond (my mother very generous) as for myself i received a diamond bracelet (i got to chose the bangle myself) and MIl still asked me whether i want diamond earrings (i told her no need) coz i have bought a pair for myself - in the end she still buys a gold bracelet for me for the tea ceremony its a gesture of gold luck - guess we should be happy lah